The activities we do can be divided into two categories: Those which vary day by day and those we do daily. Over time, which category will have the most impact on our lives?
Generally, the things we do on a regular basis define us and determine how meaningful and fulfilling our lives will be. Ironically, often this category gets pushed to the side and we give priority to new tasks and distractions which come up each day.
This daily 10 item checklist helps us pay attention to the constants in our lives, the things that are always important. Read over this checklist and see which items you already do. Congratulate yourself for engaging in these important activities. Then, choose one that you do not yet do and are motivated to start doing; make it a daily priority (or at least a weekly one). Once that becomes a habit, choose another. Over time, you will be able to check off daily each item on this list (although the time spent on a given item will vary per day).
At the beginning of each day, read over the checklist, preferably out loud, to help you get into the right mindset for the day. If you find it useful, you can use Google Keep or Evernote to program recurring daily reminders.
On the top of the checklist, write down your top three goals or priorities, to keep them front and center. Daily or at least weekly, do something in keeping with those goals or priorities.
Between us and ourselves:
1. See the good in myself, others and life. I will look for the goodness all around me. With God’s help, I will grow from and overcome my challenges. I can do it! I am amazing!
(God, our Creator, is all good. Therefore, there is goodness within everything He created. Throughout the day, look for this goodness. Start with yourself, if you have accomplished anything on this checklist yesterday, that is reason enough to compliment yourself. The importance of focusing on our good qualities and on those of others, is a fundamental teaching of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov.)
2. Ask, “Why am I here? How can I make the most of this day?” I remind myself that God created me to come closer to Him through the choices I make, thereby earning the bliss of The World to Come. I will choose wisely and make today a day well lived.
Each day God gives me the gift of life, He says to me, “I am giving you this day because as your Creator, I know you can use it to reach even higher levels of achievement. Use this day to clean your slate of past mistakes, avoid sinful behavior and take advantage of opportunities to become a better person. If you put in the effort, I will help you become the person you were meant to be.”
(To make the most of each day, schedule in meaningful and productive activities, including those which develop your strengths. Set short and long term goals and work toward them, step by step. As long as you are moving forward, with God’s help, you will achieve your goals. Ask others for advice on how best to pursue your goals. If possible, find a mentor with whom you can check in regularly, to discuss your progress.)
3. Be grateful, accepting and feel compassion for myself. Every day is filled with blessings, challenges and difficulties. I will do my best to appreciate and savor my blessings, accept my challenges and feel compassion for my difficulties. I will begin the day with a smile, and remember that just being alive is incredible. Life is incredible! Thank you God!
(Find something for which to be grateful, whether a blessing in your life, or a bright side of a painful situation. For your challenges, talk to yourself words of faith, to help you become more accepting. For your difficulties, talk to yourself words of compassion, understanding and encouragement. For more on this topic, see the first three tools in, “6 Tools to Enhance Your Mood.”)
4. Take care of my health. I will do my best to eat healthy, exercise (brisk walking counts), get enough sleep, and have a meaningful conversation with someone to develop the relationship (social support is health and life enhancing).
Between us and our fellow:
5. Do not harm emotionally or financially. I will do my best not to cause harm and I will apologize if I do. I strive to only be a force of goodness in people’s lives.
(Emotional harm: Being hyper-critical, yelling at people, ridiculing what they did, making hurtful comments, ignoring them or speaking negatively about them. If you realize you have harmed someone emotionally, as soon as possible, ask for forgiveness.
Financial harm: Being late in agreed upon payments, withholding monies belonging to others, not keeping your word, taking advantage of people or not giving them their fair share. If you realize you have harmed someone financially, as soon as possible, make amends and ask for forgiveness.)
6. Do acts of kindness and treat others well. I value people. Everyone is special. I will forgive when appropriate, see how I can be of service to others and give warm greetings, appreciation and compliments.
(Kindness begins with family. Make sure to spend time talking with and assisting family members before branching out to helping others.)
Between us and God:
7. Increase my faith in God. I will use my difficulties to come closer to my Creator. When faced with a challenge, I will ask for His help and make reasonable efforts to address the situation. I will remind myself, “This is from God for my eternal benefit. Part of fulfilling my life’s purpose is doing what I can to overcome and grow from this challenge. This will work out in the end; either in this world or in the next. God is with me, giving me the strength and courage I need to triumph.”
(A shorter version, when appropriate, is to say to yourself enthusiastically when faced with a challenge, “It’s going to be great! I don’t know how or when – in this world or the next – but somehow I will gain from this challenge; it will be a steppingstone to achieving greatness.”)
8. Study Torah. I will study God’s Torah. I thirst for His wisdom.
(Preferably have a set time each day you study Torah. There are many areas to study, focus on those to which you are most drawn. You can study from a book, read an article, study with a partner, attend a class, or listen to recorded lectures. Even if only for a few minutes, nourish your soul daily with God’s Torah.)
9. Speak to God. I will talk to God and deepen my relationship with Him. I yearn for His closeness.
(For formal prayer, recite daily at least one prayer or Psalm with intention. For informal prayer, Thank God for what is going well in your life and ask Him for help with challenges.)
10. Surrender to God. “God, I surrender to You. Please help me do Your will and fulfill Your Torah. When I lapse, please give me the strength to repent right away, begin again with a fresh start, and come even closer to You.”
(Observance is not all or nothing; the more you observe, the more you benefit, in both clear and hidden ways. Pick a particular area in which you are motivated to strengthen your observance, and commit to a specific and doable upgrade.)
In addition to doing our best to fulfill God’s Torah, we each have personal rectifications, tikunim, to make. These tikunim are part of the reason God created us. While we do not know exactly what rectifications we need to make, they often fall into one of the last six areas discussed: Not harming others, doing acts of kindness, enhancing our faith, studying Torah, praying to God and surrendering to Him. During our lives, there will be challenges/tests and opportunities in each of these areas. When we rise to the occasion, we elevate our souls and with it the entire world.
Each day, look for opportunities to rectify those areas and ask God to help you do His will and successfully make your tikunim. Be aware when you feel the urge to emotionally or financially harm others and overcome the temptation. Each day brings unique opportunities to help others. Use difficulties to strengthen your faith and pray more intensely. Be on the lookout for opportunities to study Torah and take advantage of them while you still can. When you struggle with fulfilling one of God’s commandments, that’s your chance to surrender to Him.
The chance to achieve a specific rectification, either by doing something positive or restraining from a particular sin, may only come once in a lifetime. Be ready to seize that moment.
The goal of this 10 item checklist is to help us focus each day on what is truly important in life and make our lives more productive and fulfilling.
Looking over these 10 items, which one will you start doing today?
For a free one page version of this checklist to put on your fridge, click here.